It is quite common for conversations to turn sexual so quickly with someone that you have just met on an online dating site.
Oftentimes, when you come across a person like this, they are already trying to engage in sexual conversations because they are either looking for a casual relationship or they are just trying to have fun without any real intention of ever meeting you.
It is natural for conversation to turn sexual as time goes on when you meet someone on a dating site and have good chemistry with them.
However, it typically takes a number of good and substantive interactions before both parties get to this point.
That is natural, even healthy.
A healthy dose of flirting and lighthearted sexual conversation helps to maintain romantic chemistry.
However, if you have met people who have already turned to having sexual talk with you and you are just beginning to interact with them, this is often a red flag.
Again, these individuals who start their interaction with you with sexual talk are either looking for a casual relationship or they are just looking to have fun with you online until they get bored with the conversation and move on.
If you are already experiencing people who are turning sexual so quickly, you should ask yourself about the kind of experience that you are looking to have on the online dating site and what your ultimate goal is.
Even though you may enjoy flirting, you may not be particularly comfortable with engaging in sexual talk so early in your interactions with people that you meet on an online dating site.
You shouldn’t compromise your sense of comfort and safety in an attempt to appease a person that may have started their interaction with you with sexual talk.
This is often the mistake that many make when they first start online dating.
You should always think about the experience that you are hoping to have and what your ultimate goal is.
If you are already feeling uncomfortable with these kind of conversations, your instincts are clearly telling you that you shouldn’t be engaging in them.
Regardless of how attractive the other person may be or how charming they are, you shouldn’t compromise your sense of comfort nor your intended goals.
With this in mind, it would be wise to avoid interacting with these kind of people on the online dating site.
However, it may not always be this cut and dry.
Perhaps one or more of the people who are engaging in sexual talk with you so early have dating profiles that you really enjoyed and felt connected to.
Based on what you saw on their dating profile, you may have felt that this person could be a great dating prospect.
In a scenario like this, you can politely let the person know that you are not comfortable with engaging in sexual talk so quickly but would love to get to know them as a person.
This is often a good way to filter out those who are truly intent on finding a serious relationship and those who aren’t.
Those who aren’t truly intent on finding a serious relationship will either simply disappear right away or may try a few more times to get you to engage in sexual talk with them.
Those who do the latter will soon disappear as well when they realize that you are still not trying to engage in that kind of conversation with them.