A boyfriend shouldn’t be on OkCupid in the first place.

Even though he tells you that his intent is to make friends, there are better places to make friends that are far more appropriate.

OkCupid is a dating app designed to get people together for romance or hookups.

This isn’t where your boyfriend should be to make friends.

On top of this, he isn’t telling you who he is talking to.

This is doubly worrisome.

Guys aren’t on OkCupid to make male friends.

This means that he is talking to women on OkCupid, not guys.

Making so-called friends on OkCupid who all happen to be female is a massive warning sign.

He is plunging headfirst into a cauldron of temptation.

Women don’t get on OkCupid to make friends either.

This means that the women he is talking to are thinking that he is a romantic prospect.

He doesn’t tell them that he is just looking for friends.

Were he to do that, these women would not keep talking to him.

They are looking at him as a romantic prospect, not a friend.

This means that she chats with him with this mindset.

Thinking of him as a romantic prospect, she flirts with him and asks him intimate questions.

And of course, he doesn’t interrupt her at the time and tell her that she isn’t being appropriate, being that all he is supposedly looking for is a friend.

No, he goes along with it.

He flirts back.

He teases back.

He gets intimate in response to what she is saying or asking.

Regardless of how much he tells himself that there is no harm in doing this, there is.

He is getting further and further sucked into a vortex.

On a subconscious level, he is enjoying it.

Loving it.

While he is with you, he is thinking about the next conversation he is about to have with her on OkCupid and how explicit it is going to get.

He is lost in these moments, barely present to you and what you two are doing.

This is the trap your boyfriend is laying for himself when he is on OkCupid supposedly making friends.

It is too convenient for him to run to his so-called friends on OkCupid for comfort whenever you two have a fight or disagreement, which puts him on a path to disconnecting with you emotionally.

This would spell trouble for your relationship.

He isn’t telling you who he is talking to, knowing that you would disapprove.

They are all women.

He knows you wouldn’t like that.

In telling himself that they are just friends, he keeps his conscience clear and makes himself believe that he isn’t doing anything wrong.

He is.

Put an end to this by giving him a range of different options he can use to go about making friends, and letting him know that getting on OkCupid to make friends cannot stand.

Be absolutely clear about this, even if this means that you have to end your relationship with him were he to disagree.

Permitting him to stay on OkCupid to make so-called friends is a one-way ticket to disaster.