You have a type.
Think about the types of people that you have dated in the real world.
Your history of dating is with people that have a certain look to them.
When you are constantly swiping left in a quest to find someone that you are attracted to on an online dating site and still not having success, it has a lot to do with the type of person that you are normally attracted to.
Ask yourself about how easy it is for you to find that type in your real life.
How many past loves have you had that met that criteria?
There is a good chance that you haven’t had that many people fit into that criteria in real life either.
When you are very particular in the type of person that you would want to date and what they look like, it will make it that much harder to find them, whether it be in real life or through an online dating site.
Sometimes, people make the mistake of thinking that an online dating site is like a fashion magazine brochure that they can peruse and easily pick out the most attractive human being that they come across.
Online dating sites are not magazine brochures.
Online dating sites are filled with regular everyday people.
This is not where you go to find a bunch of people who look like professional models or movie actors.
Yes, there are attractive people on dating sites but they are not in the majority.
The people on dating sites represent the world as a whole.
When you leave your home in the morning on your way to some destination, are you running into gorgeous looking people everywhere you look?
No, you are running into people who are average looking.
That is most people.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that online dating is any different.
People on dating sites are the same ones that you see driving alongside you on your way to work or walking passed you on the street.
To think that online dating sites will be so different from what you see in real life would do you a disservice.
You should be realistic when it comes to online dating.
If you truly want to encounter someone that meets your criteria in looks on an online dating site, it is most certainly possible.
But, you are not going to meet that person by simply swiping left furiously on a dating app.
What do you have to offer?
How good-looking are you?
How accomplished are you?
If you are looking to attract the most attractive people on a dating site, you have to have something going for you.
This also applies to real life.
The most attractive people are the most sought after. This means that they will be a lot more picky in who they choose to date.
If you want to find more attractive people on dating apps, you should ask yourself about your own level of attractiveness, both physically, professionally and in life in general.
What do you bring to the table?
If you have attractive qualities to your life, including great looks, your luck changes by posting better pics of yourself and writing a better bio that reinforces those attractive qualities.
Like attracts like.
If you have a mediocre profile that you just put together on the fly and expect to be presented with the most attractive matches, you will continue finding yourself furiously swiping left and overworking that poor finger.