You have never met this man in real life and it makes sense that you would be worried about the prospect of inviting him over to your place the very first time that you meet him.
But you are getting way ahead of yourself.
You are already making an assumption that a man that drives for two hours to meet you in your town is expecting you to invite him over to your place at the end of the date.
That is very presumptuous of you.
By now, based on the conversations that you have had with him on the online dating site and beyond, you should have a fairly good impression of his character.
If he hasn’t been pushy with you during these conversations, there is a good chance that all he is hoping to do on this visit is have the opportunity to see and talk to you in real life.
Even if that isn’t his motive, always remember that you have full control over how this plays out.
You do not have to do anything that you don’t feel comfortable doing.
Do not make yourself believe that you would be a bad person if you were to allow this guy to drive for two hours all the way to your town, only to have him sit with you for an hour or two of conversation on a date and have him drive back.
You don’t owe him anything.
He is making this drive on his own volition.
Remember that.
If you are so worried that having him drive all the way to your town would put the pressure on you to invite him over to your place by the end of the date, you can relieve that pressure by meeting him in a more neutral area.
You can meet him somewhere in-between where the both of you live.
Doing this puts you in a position where you don’t have to feel that you need to invite him over to your place at the end of the date, as you would both be an hour away from it.
It would feel like you both equally put in the effort to meet each other by driving to this neutral location halfway between where you both live.
With this kind of equal effort applied by the both of you, it would be a lot less likely that you would feel any pressure from him to come over to your place after the date.
He would already know how awkward that would be for him to expect when the both of you have met each other at a location that is an hour away from where you live.
Putting out this kind of effort to meet him halfway could be your best avenue to help alleviate any pressure you are currently feeling about having to reward this guy for all of his effort in driving for two hours by inviting him over to your place.
If you choose not to meet him halfway, just remember that he is making this two hour drive on his own volition.
You aren’t forcing him nor have you made any promises to him about inviting him over to your place at the end of the date.
Remember, you are always in control.
If he is truly a guy that genuinely wants to get to know you, he would not expect anything more than to talk to you on that first meeting.