Having sex on the first date with a guy that you met on a dating site isn’t anything new or uncommon.
This is something that does happen with frequency in online dating.
Now that you have had sex with him on the first date, he may either become determined to prove to you that it wasn’t just about sex or he may withdraw and stop communicating with you.
It really depends on what he was hoping to get from that first date.
If his entire purpose for that first date was to end it with having sex, he may withdraw and you will not hear from him again.
When a guy’s sole purpose for going on a first date is to have sex with the girl in the end, he is not showing a desire to get to know the girl over a sustained period of time.
An effective way to figure out whether this was his mindset is to think back to how he behaved on the date.
Was he spending more time flirting with you than asking you substantive questions about yourself?
If he was doing this, he may have been primarily thinking about trying to get you warmed up to the idea of having sex with him at the end of that first date.
By not spending too much time asking you substantive questions about yourself, he was not showing a desire to get to know you on a deeper level.
Was he encouraging you to drink alcohol?
If he was doing this and was successful in getting you really tipsy or inebriated, his entire purpose may have been to try to loosen you up so that he could attempt to have sex with you at the end of the first date.
A guy who is really focused on getting to know the girl would not want her to become inebriated.
He would want her to be sober because he would want her to be able to give him intelligible and well-thought-out answers.
He doesn’t want her to have a difficult time coming up with answers to his questions because she is inebriated or really tipsy.
A guy who is only looking for sex at the end of the first date would have the opposite approach.
Now that you have had sex on the first date with this guy that you met on a dating site, you may have some doubts as to how your correspondence with him is going to go from here on out.
Perhaps you worry that the dynamics of the relationship will change.
They most likely will.
If you had sex with a guy who really wants to get to know you, his goal would not have been to have sex with you at the end of the first date.
This would have been a guy who was very patient with you as the both of you communicated on the dating site and would have asked you a lot of substantive questions about yourself.
He most likely did not expect that sex would happen at the end of the first date and wasn’t planning for it.
However, now that it has happened, he will become that much more determined to prove to you that he didn’t just go to that first date with you in order to have sex by the end of it.
Hence, you may notice that this guy will suddenly increase his frequency of contacting you in the hopes of getting into more substantive conversations with you.
He will also avoid talking about the fact that the both of you had sex at the end of the first date.
He will try his best to avoid the topic of sex entirely.
Again, he would want to prove to you that he didn’t just go to that first date in the hopes of having sex with you by the end of it.
Hence, he would try to avoid the topic of sex unless you bring it up.
He would want to primarily focus on getting to know you better and asking you substantive questions about yourself.
Now that you have had sex on the first date with a guy that you met on a dating site, you will soon find out whether he is one who wants to know you or one who only wanted sex.
The one who really wants to know you will most likely intensify his frequency of communication.
The one whose only intent was to have sex at the end of the first date will most likely withdraw and stop communicating with you.