You need to avoid constantly referencing that first meetup or date.
When you constantly reference the first meetup or date in your continued conversations, you will keep drawing attention to it.
This will often put undue pressure on that first meetup or date.
The both of you have obviously had really good interactions ever since you both met on the online dating site.
It can be very tempting to allow this kind of chemistry that you have experienced after prolonged texting to make you start mentally projecting on what that first meetup or date will be like.
This is a dangerous line of thinking.
You can easily make yourself worried about the possibility that when that first meetup or date occurs, the wonderful chemistry that you have both shared on the online dating site will be missing.
This is easily where your mind could go if you allow yourself to keep thinking about that first meetup.
Your thoughts can easily become your worst enemy if you give into them.
To take pressure off your first meetup or date with this person, avoid allowing your mind to wander.
Stick to conversations that you are having with this person in the present and keep your thoughts reined in to those particular conversations and nothing more.
Prolonged texting can easily lead you to wonder about what that first meetup or date will be like.
Perhaps it has been a few months since you met this person on the online dating site and started interacting with them.
That is a lot of time and energy spent on one person.
It can be very easy for this kind of prolonged texting over a period of several months to get you into a state of anxiety.
The more that you think about how much time you have spent in texting this person, the more you worry about whether all this time has been worth it.
Every time that you interact with this person, you think about the time and effort that you are putting in more and more.
You wonder if that first meetup or date will ever even happen.
Even if the both of you have already arranged it, the doubt that it may never happen can still creep into your mind.
Even when you believe that the first meetup will happen, you still worry about whether all this time and effort that you spent on this person will be worth it.
This is how pressure can easily set in when it comes to how you are regarding this first meetup or date.
To take pressure off, you need to tell yourself that regardless of how that first meetup or date goes, it was worth the time that you have spent interacting with this person on the online dating site.
This time was not just about trying to connect with this person.
The byproduct of the time spent with this person is that you have come to learn more about yourself and what you tend to like in a potential romantic partner.
All of the conversations that you have had with this person thus far have not only been about building a romantic connection with them but they have also helped to give you further insight into what you enjoy talking about and what makes you feel connected to someone else.
During the course of these conversations, you have learned things about yourself that you weren’t aware of and this has enabled you to grow as a person.
Hence, no matter what happens between the both of you going forward, you have still taken wonderful lessons about yourself and life through your interactions with this person.
Understanding and accepting this way of thinking will give you a sense of relief.
The pressure has been taken off this first meetup or date because you now know that no matter what happens, you will win either way.
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