Now that you have had this kind of experience with people that you have matched with on a dating site, you should have a good idea of what to look for.
Repeatedly matching with people who mislead you into thinking that they are looking for a serious relationship only to discover that they are just looking for friends or want to have wait and see period can be incredibly tiring.
You already know what you want and you may have already spent a precious amount of quality time interacting with this guy on the online dating site only to have him come up with this excuse.
Again, try to pick up on the signs of a guy who is about to waste your time based on the experiences that you have already had with guys like this on the online dating site.
Oftentimes, a guy who is just looking for friends will not want to meet up with you in a timely fashion, if at all.
In order to avoid expending a lot of energy in chatting with a guy only to have him never attempt to ask you out to meet up or only make light suggestions about meeting up but never following through with it, you should actually set a time limit in your mind in terms of how long you will communicate with this guy before expecting to meet.
You should set it to a time that makes sense to you given how often the both of you communicate and have meaningful conversations on the dating site.
Once this time frame is reached, you should ask the guy whether he would like to meet.
Yes, you should take the initiative.
You had already given him a decent amount of time to do this as the both of you got to know each other on the dating site.
However, once you reach your time limit, you should suggest a meetup.
Doing this will help to safeguard you from wasting even further time with a guy who is only looking to be just friends and wants to have a wait and see period.
If he was being sincere on his dating profile about seeking a long-term relationship, he shouldn’t be fearful of rejection or commitment.
As far as rejection, a genuine desire to be in a long-term relationship should be enough to overcome that fear.
As far as commitment, in matching with you and chatting with you a good number of times, he should be excited about the prospect of meeting you.
If he is being sincere about seeking a long-term relationship, he would be a lot more proactive in making that first meetup happen.
At this point, he has built rapport with you.
He should be fearful that some other guy on the online dating site could come along and take you from him.
Thereby, he should have a strong sense of urgency in wanting to meet you.
This sense of urgency is what would normally spur a guy who is sincere about his intentions to ask you to meet up.
Though you may be tired of matching with guys who end up telling you that they are just looking for friends or want to have a wait and see period, you can start filtering these kind of guys out early on.
The more often you do this, the higher the likelihood that you won’t keep wasting your precious time and effort on guys like this.