Yes, it’s rude.

This isn’t taking the other person into consideration.

When either party knows that there is a definitive distance between the two, it is inconsiderate to only pick a spot that is convenient to one party over the other.

You don’t like it that this woman you met on a dating app has now picked a spot that is only convenient for her on this first date.

You two have been talking for a short while and you thought you had built good rapport with her.

She left you reeling when she picked this spot after you asked her to meet on a first date.

You didn’t expect it.

It left you a little taken aback and you had to gather your bearings.

There are several miles between you two and you thought she would be considerate enough to pick a spot that is at a midpoint.

She didn’t.

Now you are left with a bitter taste in your mouth.

You have been enjoying your conversations with her so far and now you are turned off.

You think it rude that she didn’t hesitate or think twice before picking this spot to meet for a first date.

It makes sense that you are upset about this.

You were already building up a mindset of what you thought she was, believing she was someone that was connecting with you in character and purpose.

Now you don’t know what to think.

There isn’t much to think about.

She knows that there is a significant distance between you two and chose to pick a spot that is only convenient for her.

She is thinking about herself and her convenience.

This means that in going on this date and meeting her at this spot, you would be telling her that she is that much more important than you and can get away with this attitude.

It elicits a sense of entitlement in her, which emboldens her to ask for and expect more in the future.

Is this what you want?

Do you want to be in a position where she is making demands of where she wants you to take her to on a date?

What will you do when she asks you to take her to expensive venues and expects you to pay for it?

You wouldn’t like that would you?

That’s the problem.

When you permit something like this to slide, it gets worse.

It makes her believe that you are someone she can walk all over.

When you are someone she believes she can walk all over, she is going to take advantage of it.

You have one of two choices.

Take her inconsideration as a red flag and stop talking to her, or tell her that you would much rather meet her at a midpoint location.

If she has an issue with this or gives you a hard time, let her go.

She isn’t worth your time and effort.

She is a diva who is going to use you to bolster her sense of entitlement and get what she wants.