A man on a dating app with a crush is no different from a man in real life with a crush.
A man in real life with a crush on a woman looks at her frequently.
The equivalent of that on a dating site is a man who is constantly visiting your online dating profile.
Whether it is day or night, when you log into your online dating account and check who has viewed your dating profile, he is right at the top of that list.
Just like a guy in real life who is bedeviled by his crush, seizing every waking moment to look at her when she is in the vicinity, the guy on a dating site is constantly visiting your dating profile.
He is savoring your photos, imagining what it would be like to have been in that photo with you, doing the same activity.
He reads your bio over and over, stuck in deep thought, as he ponders whether there is hidden meaning behind certain words and phrases that speak directly to him.
A man with a crush is a man a little obsessed.
Your dating profile is his emotional outlet.
Through it, his imagination runs rampant, carrying him to places in his head that he hasn’t been to since his last crush.
That last crush may have been a while ago.
This is why what he is feeling now feeds into his nostalgia.
We all remember how we felt the first time we had a crush on someone.
That childlike giddy excitement.
For him, he didn’t know that getting back to that sensation again was possible.
Your dating profile has created that giddy excitement in him once more.
He loves it.
Multiple visits to your dating profile taps into that sensation and he doesn’t want to let it go.
His nightly dreams have elevated to such new highs on account of this rejuvenation.
Each day he returns to your dating profile, the rejuvenation goes up another notch.
Given that his recent relationships have faired poorly, he appreciates getting this giddy excitement and emotional rejuvenation back in his life.
It’s been a few days and he has visited your dating profile numerous times.
The thought of messaging you has grown profoundly since the day he happened on your dating profile.
In his mind, he constructs the perfect opening message.
With each one, he spots an imperfection and redoes it.
Soon, he realizes that he hasn’t devised a message to his liking.
A week passes.
He has paralyzed himself into stasis.
On the one hand, he wants to message you, on the other, he fears that he won’t construct a good enough message for you to respond to.
He hates the idea of sending you a message and not receiving a response, as this obliterates his wanton dreams about you.
The reality that you aren’t bothering to respond to his message is too painful to imagine.
This freezes him in place, as he realizes he doesn’t want this dream to end.
He prefers to keep fantasizing about you than risk messaging you and never receiving a response.