Some people are not even aware that they are looking for a rebound when they join dating apps.
Oftentimes, it can be a knee-jerk reaction.
They go through a breakup with someone and suddenly find themselves on a dating app feverishly swiping.
Again, this can be a knee-jerk response to a breakup.
Some people just don’t want to take the time to understand and deal with their feelings, post breakup.
They figure that they would be served best if they moved on from that breakup as quickly as possible.
This is why so many people who join dating apps are completely unaware about the fact that they are looking for a rebound.
Prior to signing up on a dating app, they have made themselves believe that the relationship is clearly over and they are moving on.
This belief is often what makes them feel fine with joining a dating app so quickly.
Again, they haven’t allowed themselves to truly process their emotions.
They have made themselves believe that the relationship is obviously over and it would be best to move on as quickly as possible.
When you find the dating profile of a person who is unconsciously looking for a rebound, you have no idea.
Conversation with them at first is just fine.
There is a good connection.
It feels relaxed.
You truly begin to think that this could be the right potential match for you.
In the beginning, these people rarely show that their actual intent is to find a rebound relationship.
It can be hard to discern that when they themselves aren’t even aware that this is what they are looking for.
Oftentimes, it isn’t until a good amount of emotional capital has been spent as well as time shared before you come to the realization that you are just a rebound.
Unfortunately, the other person may come to that realization at the same time that you do.
They are now feeling the repercussions of their breakup.
They are finding it difficult to let go.
They are having a flood of emotions that are connected to an ex that they made themselves believe that they were over.
This is not your fault.
You were just unlucky enough to meet someone online who hadn’t processed their feelings and decided to rush into online dating.
Fortunately, the majority of people on dating apps aren’t just looking for a rebound.
It can be easy for you to adopt this belief system if you have now encountered more than one individual who took you down the rabbit-hole of romance only to ultimately tell you that they still have feelings for their ex.
If this is an issue that you have encountered time and time again, it may be best for you to ensure that you don’t allow yourself to get sucked into developing deeper feelings for people that you match with too prematurely.
In other words, instead of believing everything that they tell you that tends to lead to you feeling a deeper connection with a person of interest, take it all with a grain of salt.
Have the attitude that you will not allow yourself to give in to what they are saying until they have truly proven that they are emotionally available.
Until then, you will remain open, but guarded.
It is often the people who fall too easily for what these emotionally unavailable people are telling them who end up heartbroken and feeling used.
You can avoid this by keeping your feelings tempered.
Don’t get ahead of yourself by getting caught up in what this person may be telling you.
Let them back up their words with true action over a sustained period of time.
Then and only then will you be able to tell that you are dealing with someone who isn’t trying to make you a rebound.