Engaging in conversations with these guys makes you worry about being too forward.
They really appeal to you.
You may have liked what they had to say on their online dating profiles and what they look like.
You want to start a conversation with them but then you pause.
You suddenly find yourself afraid to engage in conversations with these guys.
This may have a lot do with the feeling that you are being too forward.
Perhaps you have never initiated conversation with a guy that you like in the real world.
You may be used to guys actually being the ones who approach you in real life and engage in conversations with you.
However, now that you are online dating and finding the online dating profiles of guys that you are interested in, you are not entirely sure about how to go about interacting with them.
Again, this is a different experience for you.
In real life, if you were at a social event with a bunch of guys there, one or more of them would typically approach you and engage in conversation with you.
However, now that you are online dating, you are in a position that you are not used to being in.
When online dating, the temptation to engage in conversations with guys that you like can be much stronger than what you feel when you are dealing with guys in the real world.
A big reason for this is because you have gotten to read their online dating profiles and you really liked what they had to say.
To some extent, you may feel as though you already know these guys and thereby you know that you will get along with them.
This is such a different experience from what you would have had in real life.
You typically don’t have the advantage of an online dating profile whenever you are in the presence of guys in real life.
Sure, you may notice that they are attractive but you don’t know that his favorite movie is “Big” with Tom Hanks.
You don’t know that he volunteers his time at the local animal shelter.
You don’t know that he backpacked his way through parts of Australia last summer.
These are all facts that you may learn from a guy’s online dating profile on online dating sites.
These are the kind of facts that could compel you to want to know more about the guy because you so happened to backpack your way through Europe last summer.
Perhaps you can share notes about your experiences.
Again, in the real world, all you see is that cute guy across the room.
There is nothing else that is compelling you to want to approach him and engage in conversation with him besides his looks.
Hence, in the real world, you have never really had to deal with the feeling that you get when you find a guy’s online dating profile that you really like.
You have never had to deal with that sense of connection that you may feel with a guy’s online dating profile based on some of the information that you have gathered from it.
This is why you so want to engage in conversations with these guys that you find to be so compelling on online dating sites.
However, you are just not used to having to make the first move and thereby you freeze.
All the “worry triggers” in your mind suddenly set in.
You are afraid that by initiating contact with these guys, you would be too forward.
You are afraid that it may be too awkward.
You are afraid that you may inadvertently say something that turns them off.
You are afraid that they may downright reject you and either respond with said rejection or not respond at all.
This is how your mind will work when you are in a situation that you simply have no real experience with.
However, if you like these guys and want to engage in conversations with them, you should go ahead and initiate a message.
You should be more so afraid of losing out on an opportunity to meet your perfect match in one of these guys than in the fear of being too forward.