Googling someone that you matched with on a dating site doesn’t always provide the most accurate information.
We all know how deceiving the internet can be.
Anyone could have put that information up or it may even be outdated.
It is best not to use the information that you have discovered about this person that you matched with on a dating site as your deal breaker when the validity of it is in question.
In essence, your potential deal breaker may not even be real.
Indeed, it can be hard to handle new information about someone that you have been communicating with on an online dating site of whom, up until this point, you may have felt was a good match for you.
However, you shouldn’t allow this new information to influence your correspondence with this person so far.
Continue the conversations that you are having with the person as though you did not come across this information and let them flow naturally.
It would be best not to introduce this new bit of information to this person at this time.
Depending on what kind of information it is, it may have the potential to ruin whatever rapport you have already built up with this person at this stage.
As you interact with this person online, make sure that you are also talking to other dating prospects that you have met on the dating site.
In other words, don’t put all of your relationship hopes on one person.
As time goes on, you will be able to build rapport with a good number of dating prospects.
In that time, your conversation with this one person may either still be going strong or may have even fizzled out naturally.
However, if you find that the both of you are still engaged in robust conversation on the online dating site and you are still worried about the potential deal breaker that you discovered while googling this person, you can broach the subject in a tactful way.
The best way to do this is to start with a sincere compliment.
Complimenting someone tends to be very effective in breaking down that person’s protective boundaries and getting them to open up to you.
It also helps to wrap the topic at hand in a shell of lightheartedness which often keeps the person from feeling like they are being attacked or accused of something.
If a person feels like they are being attacked or accused of something, it is a lot harder to get an honest answer from them.
Hence, wrap this up with a sincere compliment.
For example, if the deal breaker that you discovered while googling this person was that they have kids and yet, this person’s online dating profile indicates that they don’t, you could start with a compliment to broach the topic.
You could say something like, “You’re such a warm and caring person, I just can’t believe that you have no kids. I figured that someone like you would have at least one of them by now. Wait, are you sure you have no kids?”
This is a way that you can get this person to not only feel good about the compliment that you just gave them but also feel encouraged to be honest.
There is a good chance that the rapport that you have built with this person up until this point and the tactful way in which you have now broached this potential deal breaker will compel this person to be honest with you.