Before thinking about asking someone that you are dating to deactivate their online dating accounts, you should first determine whether this is a person that you are in an exclusive relationship with.
In other words, the both of you have had a conversation and agreed to be solely exclusive to one another.
If you aren’t exclusive with this person, asking them to deactivate their online dating accounts may come off as though you are trying to control their actions and they may take this the wrong way.
Now, if this is a person that you aren’t necessarily exclusive with but you are just getting to know through going out on dates with and you want them to deactivate their online dating accounts, there is an effective way to go about it.
Instead of directly asking this person to deactivate their online dating accounts, you should first find out about what this person wants.
Ask them if they are only looking to date one person at a time.
It is important to get this kind of information from a person earlier on before you have gotten too far into the dating or courtship process.
Let them know that you are only looking to date one person at a time and find out how they feel about that.
If they tell you that they only want to date one person at a time as well, then find out about how this person feels about you.
If they tell you that they like you and would like to see where things go with you, then you have an opening.
Tell them that you have decided to deactivate your online dating accounts and was wondering if they were okay in doing the same.
Again, this way of going about asking this person to deactivate their online dating accounts is more subtle and less aggressive.
You started this conversation with finding common ground with this person and ensuring that you both are on the same page or want the same thing.
If this person agrees to deactivate their online dating accounts after having asked them about it, you should go ahead and grab your smartphone at that moment and begin to deactivate your own online dating accounts.
By so doing, you are showing to this person that you aren’t asking anything of them that you aren’t willing to do yourself.
By leading through example, you are making it that much easier for this person to see the rationale behind what you are asking them and thereby be more likely to follow your lead.
This will compel them to take their smartphone out as well and begin doing the same.
This way, the both of you get to do this in each other’s presence so that there is no confusion about this.
The way that you went about leading in this manner is how you get this person to follow through with your request.
They will feel compelled to do so because you are doing it right in front of them.
Thereby, you would be showing them that you are being sincere in what you are asking.
If this is a person who is genuinely interested in dating one person at a time, they will most likely follow your lead and do the same.
If they are being deceitful, you will soon find out because they will most likely reactivate their online dating accounts soon after.