People who are “separated” from a spouse and yet find themselves on a dating site may have a situation that is very intricate or complicated.
Although, they may believe that they are done with that spouse and the only reason why they remain “separated” as opposed to divorced from that spouse is due to financial entanglements, this may not be a situation that would work for someone who is coming into this situation from the outside.
How long exactly are these financial entanglements going to last?
If you were to start dating this “separated” person and develop feelings for them over time, how long would you have to wait for them to extricate themselves from their financial entanglements with an ex spouse?
This is stuff that you really need to think about before choosing to date someone who is “separated.”
Why would this person get on a dating site before the divorce has been finalized?
There is a good chance that they are doing it because they aren’t certain about when these entanglements will be resolved and they no longer want to keep waiting until they are.
They want to move on emotionally and physically from this spouse.
Their intentions may be genuine.
They may truly have no emotional threads with this spouse and may want to truly move on with their lives. However, for you as a person coming into this situation, you have a lot more to lose.
Though this person may be looking to move on from this spouse and may have no emotional connection to them, you are still someone who is going to have to deal with the fact that this person most likely doesn’t even know when these entanglements are going to be resolved.
This is a person that most likely ran out of patience and chose to go ahead and join a dating site as they simply couldn’t see when this long road of entanglements would end.
Is this the kind of situation that you would want to put yourself in?
It is something that you really need to think about.
This person most likely has no idea when these entanglements will end.
No matter how much they try to assuage your fears by telling you that there is nothing between them and their spouse, they still can’t give you a guarantee on when these entanglements will end.
They just don’t know.
If you spend the time and effort in getting to know this person and develop feelings for them, there will be a lot more at stake for you.
This is why it may be best to avoid this situation altogether.
However, if this is a person that you just believe has potential and you find it hard letting that potential go, a safer route to take would be to start with a friendship and nothing more.
Keep the relationship strictly platonic and continue exploring your dating options with other people that you meet on the dating site.
In time, if this person truly gets a finalized divorce and you are at a place where you still haven’t met a serious romantic match, you could open yourself up to the idea of developing a more romantic relationship with them as opposed to platonic.
This is how you can go about this sensibly, while protecting your time, emotions and finances.
Going the romantic route with this person from the get go may expose you to a situation down the road that leaves you frustrated, emotionally exhausted and completely helpless.