There is a perception of guilt whenever you realize that you aren’t feeling it with a match.
You have talked to her for a short while and realized that you aren’t connecting with her romantically.
Naturally, you want to end the conversation sooner rather than later, so that you don’t waste her time and yours.
The guilt is inescapable when you realize that this is yet another match that isn’t going anywhere.
It hasn’t always been pretty whenever you have told a match that you aren’t feeling it.
There have been several occasions where you have been insulted or yelled at.
With this negative past history, the thought of ghosting women you aren’t connecting with has crossed your mind.
Notwithstanding, you haven’t done it, and don’t intend to.
You don’t want to ghost a match.
In your opinion, you hate it when it is done to you, so you won’t do it to someone else.
Which begs the question.
How do you end conversations amicably?
I commend you for having the heart to want to end conversations amicably, without wasting a match’s time, or having her wonder about why you never responded to her last message.
This sets you apart from a lot of people on dating apps, so you should be proud of yourself.
This being said, you are far too concerned about ending a conversation amicably.
The truth is, no matter how amicable you are, there are matches who take it personally.
It doesn’t matter how kind your words are, or how apologetic you sound.
Human beings are emotional creatures and we take rejection personally, no matter how sweet or kind the words used are.
It is still rejection in the eyes of most human beings, and that leads to an emotional response for many.
Keeping this in mind, your focus shouldn’t be on how to end a conversation amicably.
It should be on conveying a message that is clear and succinct.
The truth is, if you are too concerned about being amicable in your message, you end up using more words than you should, which has the effect of further annoying the woman that you are rejecting.
Keeping the message succinct and to the point is the most amicable way to do this, without sounding like you are patronizing her.
A sentence is enough.
Avoid the temptation of writing a wordy paragraph.
Tell her that you are grateful for her time, but you aren’t feeling a romantic connection with her.
That is it.
Using a bunch of words to soften the blow that you are ending a conversation with her is a major mistake.
It wreaks of pretense or condescension.
At the end of the day, we are all grown-ups.
When we sign up on a dating app, we all know that there is a chance that we won’t connect with everyone we match with.
As adults, we are responsible for how we react to this.
As the one who is ending the conversations, all you are responsible for is to send a message that is succinct, straightforward, and unambiguous.
This is how you show respect to the person you are rejecting, so that you get to move on without guilt.