Tell them about your disability before meeting them on a first date.
People have different levels of tolerance when it comes to dating a potential partner who has a disability.
Some won’t consider dating someone with a disability under any circumstances and others would, depending on the severity of the disability.
What ruins your chances of someone considering the possibility of dating you is when you don’t prepare them for something as significant as a disability.
You met this person on a dating site.
You have had opportunities to let this person know about your disability and you haven’t.
Now, your first date is imminent.
They have no idea that you have a disability, but you have no doubt that they are going to notice it when they meet you.
Clearly, you are worried.
Why keep this from them until the first date?
Meeting them on a first date isn’t going to change how they feel about your disability.
If they don’t believe that it is something they can handle, they won’t entertain the thought of dating you.
Letting them know beforehand, gives them an opportunity to assess whether they would still want to meet you on the date.
By preparing them in this way, there is still a chance that they go ahead with the date.
Keeping your disability from them until they arrive at the first date robs them of the opportunity to make a decision on whether they would still want to see you.
They are not prepared.
Now, you have made it a lot harder for them to give you chance.
Not only do you have a disability that may or may not be acceptable to them, you didn’t prepare them.
The best way to handle your disability when it comes to dating is to be honest about it.
Your disability should be something that you already have included in your dating profile.
It should be at a prominent spot on your dating profile where it can’t be missed.
This informs people who view your dating profile about your disability, giving them the agency to decide whether they want to still get to know you or not.
When you start talking to people on a dating site, you should reiterate that you have this disability.
It shouldn’t be the main topic of discussion.
After all, you are on the dating site to get to know people, not give them a dissertation on your disability.
It should still be mentioned though.
Some people still miss information, even when it is right in front of them on someone’s dating profile.
Don’t take the chance in believing that everyone has seen the information about your disability on your dating profile and registered it.
Always reiterate the information to whoever you talk to in the process of getting to know them.
Even though you are clearly sensitive about your disability, it does you no good to be deceptive about it.
Leaving that information out of your dating profile and waiting until a first date to tell a potential relationship prospect that you have a disability hurts you a lot more than it helps you.
You are only going to anger your date, irrespective of how well you have both connected on the dating site up until the first date.
Honesty about your disability is your best policy.
You have allowed the fear that your disability hurts your chances in meeting a compatible partner to keep you from doing what’s in your best interest.
No potential partner that you meet on a dating site is going to be happy that you kept a disability from them until the first date.
Give people a chance to decide whether they would still want to get to know you upon learning of your disability.
You won’t know unless you give that a chance.
If you keep having trouble getting people to give you a chance on a regular dating site, consider one that caters to people with disabilities.
This is where many people are able to relate to your condition, having conditions of their own.