In repeatedly seeing men use, “Short-term relationships, open to long,” in dating profiles, you are seriously confused.
As someone who is on dating apps looking for a serious and long-term relationship, you don’t know what exactly men mean when they use this phrase in their dating profiles.
It’s frightening to think that he could give you the impression that he is open to a long-term relationship, only to tell you that he no longer is, months after a whirlwind courtship with you.
With this lingering fear in the forefront of your mind, you don’t want to get caught in a situation where you have fallen head over heels for a guy who ultimately tells you that he has changed his mind and wants to have a short-term or casual relationship instead.
What do people mean by, “Short-term relationships, open to long?”
A guy that has this in his dating profile is playing it either way.
He is intent on giving the impression that he is open to a long-term relationship, if a short-term relationship leads to that.
Notwithstanding, his primary motivation is to get into a short-term relationship, and not a long-term one, but he hopes you don’t pick up on that.
Since his primary motivation is to get into a short-term relationship, his approach to dating you is in lockstep with this.
In other words, he wants to use a short-term mentality to how he goes about dating you.
This means that he expects to have sex with you very early, and doesn’t intend to go through a pronounced courtship process where he takes you out on several dates, wining and dining you.
Once a guy uses this approach, and the woman acquiesces, it’s very hard for him to change how he looks at you down the line, and give you the long-term relationship you want.
By the time you have come over to his place or vice versa multiple times, instead of going out on proper dates, the stage has been set.
He looks at you as a short-term casual relationship, getting to eat his cake and have it too.
Too many women have made the mistake of getting into these situations, falling for a guy’s bloviations about an openness to a long-term relationship.
She invests her time and emotions in him, as he gets to court her without having to worry about following the rules of courtship in taking her out on proper dates over a sustained period of time.
Inevitably, months later, he tells her that he isn’t open to a long-term relationship and would much rather keep his relationship with her casual.
By now, she is already emotionally invested in him, which makes it that much harder for her to leave him.
Don’t be this woman.
Too many stay in it for too long, believing that fleeting moments of unusual behavior where he takes her out on a proper date on a Friday night, or introduces him to a friend, is an indication that he is looking at her as a long-term relationship prospect.
He doesn’t.
These fleeting moments occur whenever he feels the need to mislead you into thinking that he wants to transition into a long-term relationship, so that he keeps you around.
Don’t be fooled.
Once you see a phrase like, “Short-term relationships, open to long,” see that as an instant red flag for a woman who is looking for a serious, long-term relationship, and move on to the next dating profile.