Online Dating: What Does It Mean When Someone Spills Their Guts Out To You About Their Emotional Issues On A First Date Or Even In The First Time Correspondence?

Online Dating: What Does It Mean When Someone Spills Their Guts Out To You About Their Emotional Issues On A First Date Or Even In The First Time Correspondence?


Seriously, run.

A person spilling their guts out to you should be something that is reserved for down the road.

Your first time correspondence or date with this person from an online dating site should be about getting to know each other better and feeling each other out.

The early stages of a correspondence should be lighthearted and fun.

At this stage, the both of you haven’t built a strong enough foundation for someone to be spilling their guts out about their emotional issues, not on a first date nor on a first time correspondence.

You aren’t this person’s shrink.

There are people for that.

That isn’t your job nor is it what an online dating site is for.

People often make the mistake of believing that having a romantic partner in their lives is what will take care of all of their emotional issues.

They have probably had this approach to romantic relationships in their real life experience.

They use their romantic partner as an emotional dump where they get to regurgitate every significant emotional issue that beleaguered them as a child and into adulthood.

Indeed, this may be why they have ended up on an online dating site in the first place.

They have chased away previous relationship partners thanks to using them as their emotional dump.

You most certainly don’t want to be their next victim.

Honestly, they may not know any better.

They just have this inaccurate belief that a romantic partner is supposed to be their emotional support and their buttress.

Perhaps this is something that they observed as children watching their parents or adult extended family members and their spouses interact.

This is what they know.

Even though this type of behavior may be what they consider to be the norm, that doesn’t mean that you should accept it.

You could find yourself in a scenario where this person has started spilling their guts out to you about their emotional issues and being the nice guy that you are, you have attempted to hear them out and even give them words of encouragement.

You were probably taken aback when this deluge of emotions happened but decided to go along with it because you had really connected with what this person had to say in their dating profile and you were looking forward to learning more about them.

Unfortunately, with people like this, that one conversation isn’t where it stops.

When someone has emotional issues that they haven’t worked on ameliorating and they find someone who is willing to listen, you essentially become their shrink.

Again, there is a time and a place to talk to a shrink and an online dating site is certainly not that place.

Now that you have already lent her a sympathetic ear, she will find opportune times in future conversations or dates to spill her guts out to you once again.

It will reach a point where you simply won’t be able to take it anymore.

Regardless of how much you connected with her dating profile, she is showing you her true personality in real time and you had better believe it.

Get your head out of the clouds and run from this one.