You shouldn’t allow this guy to send you money to visit him.

Allowing him to send you money to visit him would set a tone that could be detrimental to your interaction with him.

It would put you in a position where he feels that he can just send for you whenever he wants because he will be able to pay for your visit.

It almost makes you come off as too available to him and thereby easily disposable if he were to ever get bored with you.

Allowing a guy that you are talking to from a dating website to send you money to visit him could set a dangerous precedent that goes beyond just visits.

He may now feel that all he has to do is pay for this or that and he will be able to get you to do what he wants or appease you in some way.

For example, he may have a future conversation with you where he becomes insensitive and says some mean words or phrases.

You naturally become upset at him for saying all that and perhaps decide to stop talking to him.

He may proceed to then send you an expensive gift of some sort to apologize.

You love the gift.

He calls you and you accept his apology.

The both of you continue as though that incident didn’t happen.

This is incredibly dangerous.

If he was able to be that rude in what he said in that conversation, this means that there may be a cruel flaw to his personality.

He may actually have an abusive personality that he has been hiding from you.

Unfortunately, you would avoid bringing up the topic of how he treated you in that past conversation because he got you such a nice gift in apology.

However, there will come a time in a future interaction with him where he will become rude and abusive once again.

In fact, he will be even more abusive because he knows that he was able to get away with it the first time, simply by buying you an expensive gift.

This is the kind of tone that you could set very early with this guy if you were to allow him to send you money to visit him.

You may be setting the precedent that you can be easily bought off with money or an expensive purchase if he were to be abusive with you in the future.

By allowing this guy that you have been talking to from a dating website to send you money to visit him, you could actually cause an imbalance of power in your interaction with him very early.

You may inadvertently make him feel a sense of ownership over you.

He may use this sense of empowerment to become more possessive or controlling of you.

For example, you may be having a conversation with him in which you tell him that you will be going out with some of your girlfriends to do some shopping at a mall over the weekend.

He may then tell you that he would rather you didn’t go because there will be guys around and they may try to hit on you.

After all, you can wait until he sends you money to come and visit him again and he can go shopping with you then.

Being that he feels a sense of ownership over you, he would feel empowered to tell you to do something like this.

A possessive or controlling guy is never healthy for a relationship.

Again, you should avoid setting any dangerous precedents at this early stage of your interaction with this guy.

If he is able to afford sending you money to visit him, he should be able to travel to where you are at.

If that is not possible on his end for some reason, you can both find a way to perhaps meet each other halfway.

However, you shouldn’t allow this guy to send you money to visit him.