After matching with him on a dating app, the conversation went well.
He asked you out to a date at a restaurant and it was a lot of fun.
Since then, he has asked to have a second date at a spa.
That caught you by surprise.
A second date at a spa wasn’t exactly traditional.
You like this guy.
He has been a gentleman ever since you matched with him on a dating app.
He paid for the first date and has said he will pay for the second.
You are at a crossroads.
On the one hand, a second date at a spa is different and that has sparked a degree of curiosity in you.
Nevertheless, you are afraid a second date at a spa is too much too soon.
You matched with this guy on a dating app not that long ago.
Now, on a second date, he would see you in a state of undress at a spa that you aren’t sure you would be comfortable with.
No need to keep wracking your brain over this.
It isn’t okay to have a second date at a spa.
Going to a spa on a second date is too sensitive of a position to be in this soon into courtship.
Given that you don’t know him that well, you have no idea what the sight of you scantily clad could trigger in him.
By the way, that is what he wants to see.
He wants to see you scantily clad.
There are far too many options for second dates for him to settle on going to a spa, unless there are ulterior motives.
It’s akin to being invited over to his place for a second date to watch a movie.
Even though the supposed intent was to watch a movie, he is thinking otherwise.
He is hoping that in inviting you over to watch a movie at his place, he gets to be intimate with you during the cause of the night.
I am not saying that going to a spa on a second date is a surefire indication that he intends to sleep with you, but he wants to see what you look like with less clothing on.
The sight of you scantily clad could tempt him to take things further and cross boundaries you aren’t ready for him to cross.
This is too much of a compromising position this soon into courtship.
The early stages of courtship is a time where two people are primarily concerned with getting to know each other better.
This involves meeting each other on dates where either party feels secure in body and mind.
Going to a spa on a second date doesn’t instantly give off a sense of security.
You know this.
That is why you are asking this question.
These are your instincts letting you know that going to a spa for a second date isn’t good for you, no matter how curious it makes you feel.
To reiterate, it isn’t okay to go to a spa on a second date.
Doing so puts you in a compromising position too soon into courtship.
Though he has been a gentleman thus far, you have no idea whether it has been a front.
The true barometer of a gentleman is in how consistent he is over a sustained period of time.
You will get a better idea about this when you tell him that you don’t want to go to a spa for a second date.
If he respects your decision and continues to court you as consistently as he has been doing thus far, he just might be for real.
On the other hand, if he suddenly stops calling, texting and asking you out on dates, he was never a real gentleman and you have dodged a bullet in turning down his offer to meet at a spa for a second date.