Guys who are truly interested in getting to know you don’t lose interest when you express an interest in getting to know them more.
These are guys who want to take the time to get to know you as they are on a mission to find the most compatible match for them on a dating site.
These guys prefer it when there is an equal balance of information divulged about either party.
As interested as they are in you, they hope that you show the same interest in them by returning the favor and asking them quality questions about themselves.
When you run across guys who suddenly lose interest in you upon hearing that you’re interested in getting to know them more, they were never intent on taking their relationship with you to a deeper level to begin with.
They started their correspondence with you on the dating site knowing full well that they had no intention of taking that correspondence beyond a certain point.
For guys like this, that point normally arrives once they get the sense that conversations with you are no longer about lighthearted banter and more so about learning who they are on a much more intricate basis.
Yes, once you start throwing some intricate questions their way, they start getting worried.
Their initial instinct is to shun your question and quickly redirect the conversation to a topic that is more lighthearted and flirtatious.
Once you throw a few more of these intricate questions at them, the alarm bells go off in their heads.
They know that you are now passed the fun stage of playfully getting to know each other and you are trying to go a lot deeper than they are willing to go.
They were never willing to go this deep with any girl.
They are on the online dating site to kill time and feel good about the attention that they are receiving.
Nothing more.
It was never a case of them losing interest in you.
That interest was never there in the first place.
Telling them that you are interested in getting to know them more was their first cue that you are no longer solely looking to just flirt and banter with them.
Once you continued with that approach in how you went about talking to them, they finally accepted that their dalliance with you was over.
You did nothing wrong.
You reached a point where you wanted to learn more about him and that was perfectly fair.
Unfortunately, you were corresponding with someone who never had any real interest to pursue anything beyond surface-level banter and nothing more.
Regardless of what his dating profile said about wanting to find a serious relationship, it was all a lie.
Many guys misrepresent their true intentions on their dating profiles in this way as a means to get more girls to take them seriously by responding to their messages.
They try to get the girl hooked by making her believe that there is an opportunity for a serious relationship when in fact, they only want the attention.
Try not to take this personally.
Online dating is a numbers game.
As long as you remain diligent, your best match will find you.